Read the raw emotions of this mom who just came home with her little guy. It's painful & real. These children have been taken from everything they know, their country, language, food, surroundings, friends, foster family or nannies at the orphanage. They are in pain, often sick, and they are acting out. Combine caring for this little person, who wants nothing to do with you and cannot be comforted, with shear exhaustion. (And I thought the infant stage was hard with my biological kids!)
** Should we continue our adoption journey, I will be asking, or maybe begging, our family for lots of help those first weeks.
Here's another story of the beginning: here
And one more here.
2.) RAD (Reactive attachment disorder)
The agency did say that children under 5 do not typically have long term attachment problems and can be helped greatly with therapy if they do have problems. However it is still something to be aware of, to learn, and to prepare for.
3.) The Child's Age
Our children are 11 & 6. They will be 12 & 7 a year from now. If we took in an infant there will be a huge age gap. Do we want to "start over?" Emotionally I think that an infant would be easier. (Bonding.. etc.) But we are talking more like a preschool aged child (age 3?)
4.) Traveling to another country
This was a concern in the beginning. I now think that travelling to Ethiopia would be an wonderful experience!
Would my family be willing to help us out with daycare for longer than what they expected. My youngest will be in school full time in September.
Still waiting for a "sign." An open door that begs for us to walk through. A nudge (or a push) in the right direction.
For now, we wait. We talk. We think. We pray. And we feel closer to our friends who have adopted. We feel like we understand the process in greater depth than ever before.